The Gathering by Anne Enright. Excerpt:

"But it is not just the sex, or remembered sex that makes me think I love Michael Weiss from Brooklyn, now, seventeen years too late.  It is the way he refused to own me, no matter how much I tried to be owned.  It was the way he would not take me, he would only meet me, and that only even halfway.

I think I am ready for that now.  I think I am ready to be met."